So we ended up having to have the babies by c-section because of the possibility of huge complications if we had induced a regular delivery. This happened on Saturday and we decided to name them Chloe and Sophie. Chloe was just under pound and Sophie was 12 oz. We were able to spend some time holding them before Flamm funeral home came and got them. We are also grateful to be able to spend that time with the people we love. We will be having a graveside service at the Rexburg cemetery on Sat at 11 o'clock.
We appreciate every ones love and concern and for all the help that you have given us at this time.
Love,
Darcie, Brandon and Callie
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
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What I Wish Everyone Knew
I wish everyone knew that this hurt never goes away. We still need support, and I still need to hear my son and daughters' name. Now, even more than before, I NEED to have their lives validated.
I wish everyone knew ....that even though my babies' deaths were the most painful experience of my life, I am grateful for the pain, and I would still choose to have them even knowing that it would end the same....and I would give anything to cuddle them in my arms again, if only for a brief moment.
I wish everyone knew... that my heart leaps with joy every time someone asks me about my babies.
I wish everyone knew that a baby's age or size at birth or death does not determine to how much of a person he or she was or how much they will be loved or missed.
I wish everyone knew that an early miscarriage and/or losing a tiny baby is just as difficult and painful as losing any other child.
I wish everyone knew how much I need to talk about mybabies, and how happy it makes me when someone asks about them.
I wish everyone knew the struggle that I go through everyday to answer the simplest questions, like: How many children do you have?
I wish everyone knew it is ok to talk about my loss.
I wish everyone knew that I think of my babies all the time.
I wish everyone knew that I have completely changed because of my experiences.
I wish everyone knew how much I love and miss my babies.
I wish everyone knew how much I need to talk about them and remember them.
I wish everyone knew what it felt like to hold them, still, perfect, breathtaking and have to leave them.
I wish everyone knew what it felt like to long for just 1 more second with their baby. Maybe then they could truly cherish all the billions of seconds they get with theirs.
I wish everyone knew that us mommies who lose our babies carry them with us everywhere we go...for the rest of our lives...and to say we are changed...is putting it rather lightly.
I wish everyone knew and appreciated what an absolute miracle each and every child is, from conception to birth, viable and enviable.
I wish everyone knew that even though I can smile and go to work and "function" like everyone else, I'm not like everyone else.
I wish everyone knew that even if you don't know what to say to me, saying nothing at all is more painful than you can imagine. Ignoring me and never speaking to me again because it makes you uncomfortable to be around me is worse than being uncomfortable or saying the wrong thing.
I wish everyone knew ....that even though my babies' deaths were the most painful experience of my life, I am grateful for the pain, and I would still choose to have them even knowing that it would end the same....and I would give anything to cuddle them in my arms again, if only for a brief moment.
I wish everyone knew... that my heart leaps with joy every time someone asks me about my babies.
I wish everyone knew that a baby's age or size at birth or death does not determine to how much of a person he or she was or how much they will be loved or missed.
I wish everyone knew that an early miscarriage and/or losing a tiny baby is just as difficult and painful as losing any other child.
I wish everyone knew how much I need to talk about mybabies, and how happy it makes me when someone asks about them.
I wish everyone knew the struggle that I go through everyday to answer the simplest questions, like: How many children do you have?
I wish everyone knew it is ok to talk about my loss.
I wish everyone knew that I think of my babies all the time.
I wish everyone knew that I have completely changed because of my experiences.
I wish everyone knew how much I love and miss my babies.
I wish everyone knew how much I need to talk about them and remember them.
I wish everyone knew what it felt like to hold them, still, perfect, breathtaking and have to leave them.
I wish everyone knew what it felt like to long for just 1 more second with their baby. Maybe then they could truly cherish all the billions of seconds they get with theirs.
I wish everyone knew that us mommies who lose our babies carry them with us everywhere we go...for the rest of our lives...and to say we are changed...is putting it rather lightly.
I wish everyone knew and appreciated what an absolute miracle each and every child is, from conception to birth, viable and enviable.
I wish everyone knew that even though I can smile and go to work and "function" like everyone else, I'm not like everyone else.
I wish everyone knew that even if you don't know what to say to me, saying nothing at all is more painful than you can imagine. Ignoring me and never speaking to me again because it makes you uncomfortable to be around me is worse than being uncomfortable or saying the wrong thing.
8 comments:
What beautiful names for your little girls! I bet they were beautiful little angels. You are in our prayers and know that I am here if you ever need to talk. Sending you lots of (((((HUGS))))) your way!
Darcie, I love those cute little names. I bet they fit their beautiful bodies just perfect.
I hope you are recovering well and know you are in my prayers for sure!!
Thanks for keeping us updated - you have so many people that love you!
It's always hard to know what to say in these situations. I will keep you in my prayers and I hope you recover well. I hope with Heavenly Father's help you can get through this. I'm thinking of you.
I bet they were beautiful Darcie, love your names you picked for your girls. At least you know that you will be with all your babies one day, and it will be so wonderful.
You have choosen beautiful names for your little girls. I hope that your recovery goes smoothly. Thanks for keeping us updated. We are keeping you in our prayers. If you need to chat let me know.
You don't know me, but my heart goes out to you. I too lost twin girls--last August. Charlie and Chelsie are a daily part of our lives, though, and I'm sure Sophie and Chloe will be a part of yours. Good luck with the upcoming months, we will keep you in our prayers.
What cute girl names. I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there. You're such a strong person with a great husband and daughter.
Hi Darc,
I just wanted to let you know that I am so sorry that I didn't find out sooner. You are a dear friend and I am so sorry for your losses. Your family will be in our prayers and thoughts. Please call me when you get a chance. I love you!
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